Everyone knows toddlers go through the terrible twos, or a more PC term “boundary testing”. Well, mix that with a post natal emotional Mum with a new born baby and you get a fun filled house of tantrums and tears. My husband is one lucky man!!!!!
I’d known from having Missy that the baby blues would hit, not too bad, but still there would be tears from me for no reason or at least no logical reason. With all that in the back of my mind, I was stressing out trying not to get depressed.
So, how to keep the head sane, the family fed, and the house standing. For me it was help from family and friends along with some writing and walking. The walking is still improving and there’s no speed with me as my pelvis recovers, in fairness, it was messed up for six months so it’s going to take a while to get walking fast and then work up to running(read more about dealing with pelvis issues). So for now it’s a daily walk to pick Missy up from creche, and lets not forgot the odd bit of shopping.
Advice I’ve heard during both pregnancies, which is so true, is, no matter how much crying and unsettled your baby is, get out of the house everyday. No matter what you or your baby look or feel like, head to the local shop, pharmacy, anywhere. Guaranteed at least one person will complement your baby, and say aren’t you great for getting out. This will instantly lift your spirits 🙂
As the blog title says I’m going to laugh or cry at whatever happens in life, so to deal with the physical and emotional pain, I decided to turn what I could into funny messages to friends. After a few tears had been shade of course.
My Baby Bonding Girlfriends
A whole post in itself is needed to tell you all about these girls, but in short, when I was on leave with Missy I met three amazing other new mums. We stay in contact using a group chat on Whatsap. Here are some of the messages I sent them:
Day of Cian’s arrival
Lads this labour thing is redic isn’t it!!! finally coming down from the high I’ve been on all day.
4 days after
OMG my boobs are 3 times the size they were yesterday. I’m running out of room , they’re nearly under my arm pits!!!! Between them getting bigger and Cian coming out, my centre of gravity is all f**ked up and I keep falling over!!!
7 Days after
In good news my ankles are reappearing 🙂 rest of me being held together with duck tape……literally. Have my belt on for my pelvis, a grip type thing for my stomach, tight bra to stop engourgement and a gum shield as my jaw shifted during labour. Can you say sexy
12 days after
I’ve had a good few teary moments as well, mainly when Missy was having tantrums. She’s flippin stubborn as anything——> I know I know, a pot/kettle situation.
Funniest Text I received from Dad
Peppa pig working ok
In any context this is funny. I or Dad could never have guessed he would know about Peppa Pig or even have it saved as a favourite on youtube for emergencies with Missy!!!!
Meals on Wheels
Another thing which hugely helped the Gahan household survive, yes it’s survival at the start, was the generosity of friends and family. We are so fortunate to have grandparents who can and do help us. Despite Missy having a major melt down when Granny picked her up from creche, Granny & Gerry were there every day for Missy and us. Since Missy was born Granny always arrives with a cooked ham. Happy days 🙂
Friends dropped over so much delicious food. We didn’t need to cook dinner or think about what to eat for days. Legends. We will definitely be doing this for the next people we know having a baby.
Three weeks after Cian’s arrival and we’re all settling into our little routines. Granted we are a little spoiled as we are on holidays in West Clare at the moment. It does, at times, feel like all we do is feed, change nappies and wait for Missy to nap, but we’re getting plenty of walks and building so many sandcastles.
Missy loves being a big sister and loves her brother, even if a little too much at times. We’re so excited about out family’s future and can’t wait to create plenty of memories together.